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Understanding the Rules of the Mind

As a child we form our beliefs and then we live them.

If we think about this for a moment, we realize how powerful and true this is.

Often, there’s a joke that babies don’t come with a manual, but there really should be more education about the Rules of the Mind (credited to Charles Tebbetts).

According to Bruce Lipton, PhD, Stem-Cell Biologist and author of The Biology of Belief, we live in a subconscious state, a Theta state, from age 0-7 years and this is when we download all our beliefs from the people close to us and our community.

Our first seven years have a very significant impact on how we then live the rest of our life.  Now as adults, you may or may not know, that we live our life according to our subconscious programs.  According to Bruce Lipton, 95% of our life comes from our subconscious!

If we have struggle in our life, we need to recognize what the struggle is and then reprogram our subconscious.

How Do We Reprogram Our Subconscious?

According to Bruce Lipton: Repetition, repetition, repetition.  (Daily gratitude journal, daily positive affirmations, hypnosis etc.)

We can also use hypnosis to access our subconscious mind and change the programming.

I am currently training to become a clinical hypnotherapist, as I’ve realized how powerful hypnotherapy is for changing the self-sabotaging patterns of the subconscious mind.

(Hypnosis does not mean that you are out of control and that I can make you “cluck” like a chicken, as you may see with stage performing hypnotists.  In hypnotherapy, a person is hypnotized which means their nervous system is in a deeply relaxed state.  One remains in complete control and can stand up and walk away at any moment, if they choose.)

In my training, I have learned the Rules of the Mind from Charles Tebbetts, and I believe these are rules that we should all have knowledge of.  Today I’m sharing the first five of the ten rules.

Rules of the Mind

⓵  The mind can’t hold conflicting beliefs.   

You can’t think  negative thoughts and be confident.  For example, it’s not good to make jokes about yourself that are self-deprecating – the mind believes everything you tell it.  Kids and teens may tell themselves that they “suck” at something – it’s really important that they re-word this and say that something is challenging but they will figure it out.

 

⓶  Every thought you think creates an emotional response. 

If you’re feeling nervous or worried, change your thoughts and tell yourself that you are feeling excitement.  If you have a fear of flying and you think that by getting on a plane, this is the end, you will be terrified.  However, when you get into a car and you’re thinking about meeting up with a friend, you’re happy, and not thinking about a fatal accident.

 

⓷  We are what we think and what we believe.  Our mind listens to our words and the images we hold in our mind. 

These pictures become a blueprint.  This is why it is so powerful to listen to positive, empowering music – our mind hears the words.  If you are worried about public speaking, expect to succeed and envision yourself giving a great speech.  If you say something is “torture” your mind will try to protect you and keep you away by making you sick or making you procrastinate.  Stay away from words such as: agony, boring, stressful, overwhelming, nightmare, freaking out, making me crazy etc.  Change wording to “this is a challenge” or “this is an opportunity”.  

 

⓸  Imagination is more important than knowledge.  Imagination always wins over logic. 

Emotion wins over reason.  See it and believe it!  Think about how many times you’ve bought something because your emotions were activated due to your imagination versus logic.

⓹  Every suggestion you act upon creates less opposition to future suggestions. 

Example: Writing your first book is at first intimidating and then with each subsequent book, it gets easier and easier.  The first public speaking event may feel very nerve-wracking, but with each one, it gets easier and easier.  This is why we coach our children to take small steps towards facing their fears and to then keep practicing it.

This week I received a lovely email from a mom who has bought my children’s book, Surfing the Worry Imp’s Wave for her five year old who, since September, had been having a really hard time going into school.  As I read her email, I realized that her little boy, had been able to readily accept the messages and pictures of the “Worry Imp” who plays tricks on us, and this had changed the messages and programming in his subconscious mind.

“We received your book and appreciate how quickly it arrived! My husband and I read through the first section with our son and the next day he walked up to school, lined up with little issue and walked inside, even though that had previously been causing him significant distress! Every morning since he has been able to adjust and lineup himself. Everyone at the school and myself were completely stunned how the transition happened so quickly!                  ~ Candace

I’m so glad this family has been able to turn their son’s beliefs around at this early age.  Without realizing it, he would have applied these first five rules of the mind when he heard the story about the Worry Imp.

In essence, the popular quote:  “What we believe, we receive” sums up the power of the subconscious and the Rules of the Mind.

As parents and educators, we need to do our best to help our children develop healthy and positive beliefs about themselves and the world.

(With all the negative talk about the stress in the world these days, it’s very important that this is the not the program that our young children are downloading into their subconscious minds. Be careful of USA election talk this week.)

This Tuesday, I’m excited to meet the next group of kids who will learn how to step into their power and understand some important life-skills and life rules for feeling self-empowered.  (The 10-12yrs. group is sold out but there are a few in-person or online spaces remaining in the 7-9yrs. group.  Open to anyone in North America.)

Be well,

Warmly,

For more information about my Self-Empowerment group for 7-9 year olds, starting this Tuesday, please click here.

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