Thank you for all your support this year!
From launching my Kickstarter campaign for my children’s book: Surfing the Worry Imp’s Wave, and celebrating with over one hundred of you at my book launch party to supporting my recent TEDx Talk: The Impact of Anxiety and What We Can Do About It. I’m so grateful for all your views, likes and positive feedback.
Here are my top ten most popular blogs of 2018.
Top Ten Parenting Blogs for 2018!
#10: The Importance of Grandparents & Happy Grandparents’ Day!
The second Sunday in September is Grandparents’ Day in Canada, so this post is a tribute to my children’s grandparents and all of the wonderful grandparents out there! Read more…
#9: What Are the Four Goals of Misbehaviour?
Rudolph Dreikurs (Reference: Dreikurs, R. (1947). The four goals of the maladjusted child. Nervous Child, 6, 321-328.) articulated the four goals of misbehaviour which have been succinctly summarized by the Toronto based Adlerian author and family counsellor, Alyson Schafer in her excellent book, which I have mentioned before, Honey I Wrecked the Kids, p. 68. Read more…
#8: How Do I Know If My Child Has Anxiety?
Anxiety can be tricky to identify because it can manifest in many different ways. People often ask what’s the difference between a little worrying and anxiety. Therefore, I’ve put together a list of common signs of anxiety to give you a general idea of what anxiety can look and feel like. Read more…
#7: How Long Does an Emotional Reaction Last If We Don’t Fuel It?
Have you heard of the 90 second rule?
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard brain neuroanatomist, author and popular Ted Talk speaker has increased awareness of the 90 second rule.
According to Dr. Bolte Taylor: “Once triggered, the chemical released by my brain surges through my body and I have a physiological experience. Within 90 seconds from the initial trigger, the chemical component of my anger has completely dissipated from my blood and my automatic response is over. If, however, I remain angry after those 90 seconds have passed, then it is because I have chosen to let that circuit continue to run.” Read more…
#6: Conflict Resolution vs. Melt-Downs: The Ross Greene “Basket” Approach
Because frequent melt-downs create a lot of stress for all family members, or class-mates, the first goal with “explosive children” is to reduce the frequency of melt-downs. If a child is experiencing several melt-down episodes per day, then he/she begins to identify with this role and loses confidence in handling problems in any other way. Thus, the initial goal is to reduce the demands on the child by sorting the behaviours into the following three “baskets”, categorized by priority. Read more…
#5: The Brain Science of Tantrums
Dr. Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s book The Whole-Brain Child is, in my opinion, a must-read. They take all the current brain research and in parent-friendly terms explain what is happening to your child’s brain when, for example, he/she has a temper tantrum or gets stuck on a negative emotion, and how to build more adaptive ways of handling big emotions. Read more…
#4: What is Your Personality Priority?
According to Alfred Adler, (one of the founding fathers of psychology). We all have personality priorities which are the strongest aspect in our universal wish to belong and feel connected. There are four possible personality priorities, and each has some positive factors and some negative factors. None are better or worse than the other! Each of them impacts our parenting style. Read more…
#3: Teaching Kids Consent – It’s Too Risky Not To!
Teaching kids consent is a vital and ongoing conversation from toddlers to teens. By starting these types of conversations early, it won’t be awkward to continue to have these conversations as your kids enter the middle school years and beyond. Read more…
#2: “Three’s a Crowd!” How to Recognize Triangulation in All Relationships?
We are all drawn into “triangles” which is our human way of decreasing anxiety and tension. In a triangle there’s a stronger bond that exists between two of the points and a third point is pushed to the outside. We know that tension feels uncomfortable and therefore it feels better to bring in a third person to help focus the attention or conflict elsewhere. Read more…
#1: The Impact of Anxiety and Three Mind Shifts to Transform It
We all have a worry voice in our minds. It comes and goes but sometimes it can really take hold. We need to name it and externalize it so that it’s something outside of identity that we can have power over. I like to call this worry voice, the Worry Imp. Read more…
Warmly,
PS. There’s still a couple of spaces left in my next Brain Science camp to teach children about anxiety and anxiety management strategies which starts in January. Please call Hailey at the ABLE Clinic to register at 604-922-3450. To see the flyer with more information about the group click here.
PPS. To receive my free ebook: 8 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Your Child Is Anxious, click here.
PPPS. To learn more about my children’s book on anxiety for children ages 5-10 yrs. Surfing the Worry Imp’s Wave ~ Empowering Child to Understand and Manage Anxiety, see the right margin of this page and scroll up.
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